Children are fascinated by babies and my family is no different. Now that our family is set to grow once more conversations about babies is something we seem have every day. We’ve always been age appropriately honest with our children about the “facts of life” and feel happy that they know what they need to know.
My two youngest daughters love playing babies and there’s normally a baby shoved up their jumper when they’re pregnant and then it will just be pulled out and appear when it’s born – if only! But the other day my youngest daughter (6) announced that she was going to have her baby, this was new. She then asked me “does it hurt?”. Now my immediate answer would be quite different to what I would tell her!
My mum never really talked to me about her births until after I had had my first child. She only said to me to “listen to the midwifes and do as you’re told”, now this I have taken with me through all 5 of my labours and it gave me something to focus on. I have been extremely lucky with my labours as they have all been quick and relatively stress free but it’s different for everyone and everyone has their own story to tell. For some it’s magical (sorry I’m one of these, seriously you’re creating life!) and for other’s it’s a living nightmare that seems to never end which they want to forget and never go back there.
So I settle on “yes it does, you need to be strong and brave”, happy with that! “So just like my splinter then?”, err not the reply I was thinking I’d get. At that moment I thought my heart was going to burst, children have a wonderful knack of making you smile unexpectedly. How do they do that? The thing was she was absolutely right, I’d told her a few days earlier when I taken a splinter out of her finger she’d been brave and strong. To her that was something painful that she’d been brave through, essentially that was exactly what I’d said. Simple when you’re 6, she was happy and carried on playing and I took that as a good mummy moment. Happy Days!